The times Are Changing
To wed or not to get married tie the knot? That is the question. It never was the query. It was before ‘When to marry?’ not ‘why to marry’. For years young ladies were required and put pressure on themselves to find a hubby young, get married and set up home with babies and a hamster, and devotethe rest of their lives to organising a well run home. Possibly because females have been set free from what were once their conventional uses, that wedlock is no longer high on the agenda and certainly not the only path to take up. In Actually many people- both men and women- positively detest the idea of marriage, and can’t envisage gazing into a loved one’s eyes and promising without compromise to spend the remaider of their lives with them until someone dies. In many ways it’s quite sad, because weddings can be such joyous events- especially when they feature a fine-looking wedding robe and sky lanterns. But, disastrous marriages can be devastating, financially and emotionally injurious, and the most isolating things in the world. Though being in a ill-fated partnership is also hugely isolating, somehow with the marriage tag, it’s worse still . Colleagues expect more of a couple when they are officially married and have purportedly spent so much dosh on their wedding day. They are due to be happy or to at least try their damndest to be so. As a result of this perceived external insistency, many men and women feel they have to put on a front and shroud their honest thoughts. The reason why there used to be a greater number marriages or why marriages lasted longer a few generations ago is because couples had no choice but to keep pressing on with their relationship. This is good in some respects, but in others, it is very negative. Yes there were more such marriages, but there were also many more desperately grim ones.
